Friend: comrade, chum, crony, confidant, backer, advocate, ally, associate, compatriot.
J and I are lucky to have some really great people in our lives. One bright side of great tragedy is that you really get to know who much people care about you. I have a very large stack of cards that we received after Lukas was born. I remember some days dreading getting the mail because I knew there would be more sympathy cards in the box. I would stand at the counter and read everyone, tears streaming down my face. This went on for weeks. Now I think how lucky I am that I have so many people who cared about J, Lukas and I. I kept every card and put them in Lukas’s red trunk. One day I’ll be able to read them again.
We got to spend a few hours with some of our closest friends on Sunday. They’re the type of friends who let me talk about my infertility and the loss of Lukas without judgement or awkwardness. I am lucky to be surrounded by some great people, and there are many more who are just a phone call away.
A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same. -Elbert Hubbard